Negotiation is the process by which two or more parties attempt to reach an agreement. The definition is simple, but the process can be complex.
\r\nHow parties approach a negotiation depends on their differences, their goals, and their desire to reach a resolution. Past experiences, personal biases, and individual temperaments also come into play.
\r\nLearning how to get our way begins early. Children negotiate with parents, siblings, caregivers, teachers, and peers. Most young people learn that no single approach works with everyone. Schoolyard bullying rarely works at home. The sweet approach that wins over your grandma falls flat with your big brother.
\r\nRelated Article: Emotional Intelligence & Negotiating: Lessons from Harvard Business School
\r\nDespite intuitively adapting their negotiating style in social settings, some people treat all business negotiations as purely competitive, attempting to win at all costs. This approach falters when negotiations involve ongoing business relationships.
\r\nEffective negotiators distinguish negotiations by type and apply appropriate strategies.
\r\nModern theories about negotiation have roots in multiple disciplines, including behavioral psychology, conflict management, economics, law, international relations, labor relations, and mathematics. Most experts divide negotiations into two broad types: distributive or integrative.
\r\nDistributive negotiation gets its name from the idea of dividing a “fixed pie.” The more one gets, the less for others, creating winners and losers. Such negotiations are described as adversarial, bargaining, competitive, transactional, zero-sum, or win-lose. Compromises can leave all parties dissatisfied, as in across-the-board budget cuts, yielding lose-lose outcomes deemed more fair than having one side win.
\r\nIntegrative negotiation gets its name from the idea of working together to maximize the goals of each party. Such negotiations are described as collaborative, transformative, or win-win. Negotiators “expand the pie” by including non-monetary tradeoffs and benefits.
\r\nA century ago, Mary Parker Follett, a social worker and pioneering theorist of organizational behavior, proposed constructive conflict resolution, which integrates the desires of both parties. She told a story about two sisters who wanted the same orange and cut it in half (a distributive approach). However, one wanted only the juice to drink and threw out the peel, while the other wanted only the peel for baking a cake and threw out the pulp. Had they shared their true goals, each could have gained more through a different settlement.
\r\nSome negotiations do not lend themselves to win-win solutions. In single transactions, where the parties have no prior relationship and no expectation of one afterward, each side strives for maximum gain without concern for the other’s outcome.
\r\nConsider haggling over the price of a car or house. With other buyers and sellers plentiful, each side may have an alternate deal in mind and walk away, rather than make concessions beyond that point. In their 1981 book “Getting to Yes,” Roger Fisher and William Ury coined the acronym BATNA for “best alternative to a negotiated agreement” to describe this option.
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\r\nTo drive a hard bargain, experts recommend these steps:
\r\nMany businesses hire subcontractors, form alliances or create partnerships, and virtually all desire ongoing relationships with suppliers and customers. Negotiated outcomes viewed as inequitable by either side threaten these relationships. Finding new partners or customers is costly.
\r\nNegotiations tied to ongoing relationships tend to involve multiple issues beyond setting a price, so discussions become wide-ranging. Integrative negotiation turns the distributive process on its head. Scholars Richard E. Walton and Robert B. McKersie in their seminal 1965 book, “A Behavioral Theory of Labor Negotiations,” called the two processes “antithetical.”
\r\nTo achieve a collaborative win-win agreement, experts recommend these steps:
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\r\nSome theorists believe all negotiations can be integrative. Others contend that distributive and integrative approaches can be blended. Business negotiators must understand both. In today’s environment of greater transparency, specialization, and outsourcing, learning to negotiate win-win outcomes is essential for sustainable, long-term business relationships.
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